I wrote this for everyone and no one in particular.
On FB I do not know most of the people who add me but that is never a bad thing as it’s always good to make new friends.
For those I know I usually visit their wall whenever I feel like seeing what they are up to, I may not comment all that much
but that does not mean that I don’t care about my friends or that I have no interest following the progress of junior artists and colleagues.
The real reason I do not open the FB feed is because the large stream of junk information and Ads makes me cringe so hard I have to see a dentist.
What I cannot stand the most are those random quote re-posts and the fact that most people do not realize that they are actually
re-posting “banner ads” for those pages that feed off site traffic.
Most of the “generic wisdom” is completely redundant and often unintelligible information, tailored for the simple minded who will take every
cohesive statement as a fact without questioning or analyzing its true meaning or the lack of it.
Sure you may find a quote that in nice words expresses your own feeling but guess what, no one really cares and that is why
you people barely get any likes on such posts. Don’t get brainwashed by all the arbitrary hogwash and theoretical advices that don’t apply in real life.
Life is beautiful but unmeasurably more complex than a Barbie house.
“You need to breathe in order to live” Yeah, no shit Sherlock, who would have guessed that you need to breath in order to live!
“Art is life” Wow, thank you for such deep wisdom. Things girls so, things boys do… fuck that!
Life is not all made of happiness and flowers, the sooner you realize it and step out of your comfort zone, your house of cards.
Happiness, just like success and any other achievement requires some effort, be it work, emotional investment or simply your own,
personal development. You are not by default entitled to anything without having to work for it first.
Stop looking for approval and reassurance in vague quotes to make yourself feel better not having to move out your comfort zone or
dealing with your insecurities. Ignorance is not bliss. Expand your horizon, there are no boundaries, no one is holding you back but yourself.
You only reflect the society’s reflection of yourself if you let your surrounding press you into a mold.
People, work your brains, this is your most important instrument you have, learnt to rely on your own intellect.
If you really want to educate yourself, step away from social media BS and go read some books, get some classic literature, learn from real life
experiences, pick up some scientific literature, look at the state of the world, learn about politics, learn to read the text between the lines.
Critical thinking should be in everyone’s skillset.
Do question and analyze every information that in any way is meant to form/educate you, do not take every written word as a law/fact because
every book is written by another human just like you and me and people make mistakes, in many field even deliberately.
Even scientific literature is being constantly updated when theories are disproved or new facts are discovered. This is how it is supposed to be,
life not black white, there is not one universal truth but an exorbitant quantity of possibilities, variables and ways.
Be flexible, analyze yourself and your environment, learn to admit your own mistakes, adapt and learn to accept new fact that might change your view.
People say you can’t teach tricks to an old dog. That is bullshit.
We all are perfectly capable of learning and adapting, but we must have a wish and motivation to grow.
If the curiosity dies you will become stubborn and afraid of changes as your paradigm becomes rigid.
That being said I by no means tell you to distrust everyone, this mostly concerns educational material or facts that might affect
your development and actions.
If you mom tells you that she is going out to buy groceries, there is no need to get paranoid and distrust her words.
But always know that every action has a motivation. There is no such thing as being selfless, everything we do is in correlation with a motivation or
agenda but that does not mean that every motive is negative.
Causality is one universal pillar; there is always a cause and effect.
Some people help others merely for the reason because making someone else smile gives them please, others do it because of guilt, others for
publicity and some are simply spoiled rich kids that spend papa’s money to do some “good”.
The cause may be noble but still, there is an always reason for everything we do and everything we don’t.
Do not be fooled by words, those who truly want to help without expecting to be rewarded usually don’t boast their good deeds on social media.
Respect everyone by default but trust has to be earned, however try not judging people by their actions alone as you may not be aware of how
they spend their time outside of your personal field of view, this of course goes for both sides.
We all are mere human driven by hormones, desired, needs and spontaneous decisions.
You may meet an asshole but this asshole might have friends who love him and sometimes people will meet you and you will be the asshole.
It is all a matter of timing. Choose your friends wisely, for those who love you are the most important thing in your life.
Your parent will pass as they are older than you and all that will be left are those who love you.
Return kindness with kindness but don’t trust people blindly. Use common sense.
Taking relationship advice from a friend who is jealous will do you no good obviously, use your own brain, all answers are already there.
Dating random people you can in most cases assume that they will tell you everything you want to hear and more, just to get into your pants,
the question is how long can they keep up the façade because that is when dating stops.
I am only 36, by no means I see myself and mature and wise and in my opinion no wise man would say so because the implication seeing
yourself as wise and mature makes you immature as we never should stop learning and developing ourselves. Age is just a number
and I am just a big kid, running around exploring life.
Please be not offended by my words but if you are you please take a moment and reflect on the information and try to analyze why
exactly you are angry. No one likes to be lectures, of course, but this is not a lecture and I am not criticizing you but merely sharing my point
of view and it is up to you what you do with it.
I do not believe in worlds like talent and prodigy (unless we are talking about rare mutations), everything is a result of hard work and most
people are not born with it.
However a great deal of people suffers from a cognitive bias making them unable to recognize their own ineptitude.
It is very difficult to talk to such people as they get very defensive and perceive any advice as a personal attack or simply by default
assume knowing everything better than you.
The Dunning Kruger effect is luckily not necessarily a permanent state of mind and many people manage to open their eyes during their life time.
Life is short and I’m not taking about the average life expectations. Ask yourself, how many summers do you have left where you will
be able to roam the lands under the sky, enjoying the sun.
Enjoy life and be grateful for the gifts and affections you receive.
Don’t take shit from anyone but return kindness with kindness.